Help a Suicidal Friend
If you’re taking the step to support a mate who’s struggling, well done. These conversations aren’t easy, but they can make a life-saving difference. Knowing what to say and how to act can help someone see a way through their crisis.
How to have a life-saving conversation
Talking to someone you think is suicidal can feel daunting, but being present and compassionate matters more than having all the answers. Follow these practical tips to give support safely and effectively:
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Seven tips for helping a suicidal friend
1
Trust your gut
If you think something’s wrong, it probably is. It might feel uncomfortable, but simply asking a mate how they’re doing can open the conversation.
2
Prepare
Think about what to say and which services are available if needed. Recommended helplines: CALM (0800 58 58 58) or Samaritans (116 123).
3
Be direct
Don’t shy away from the ‘s’ word. Talking openly about suicide breaks stigma and does not put the idea in someone’s head.
4
Listen
You don’t need to have solutions. Simply asking questions, listening carefully, and being patient can be enough.
5
Take action
Don’t leave your mate alone. If they have plans or intentions, help them access professional help – call their GP or take them to A&E.
6
Get support
You don’t have to do this alone. Involve others if your friend agrees. Teaming up can make the situation safer and more manageable.
7
Be kind to yourself
Supporting someone in crisis is emotionally challenging. Don’t expect to have all the answers. Just listening and caring is a powerful first step – you’re making a real difference.
